In the spirit of Thanksgiving and as a base for our ‘creating a better home for 2015’ series, today I would like to look at gratitude – from the ‘creating the most perfect, dreamiest home’ point of view.
Noticing what we already have and how far we’ve come helps us appreciate where we already are on this journey.
Do you live in an apartment or a house you own? Or do you maybe own your first pieces of furniture that you’ll be able to take with you when you move to your next home?
Either way, all of us had to start at zero at some point – we started creating our own home from a few boxes of stuff brought (probably) from parents’ house. Maybe you had your own green plant, which would move with you since college and was the so-called “beginning of your stuff”.
When chasing the dream of having a perfect home it’s easy to keep moving the threshold and say “when I get this bed, I’ll be happier”, “when I upgrade my fridge and will be able to shop less often I’ll really be able to enjoy myself more”, “when I get an ice-cream maker, I’ll feel like the dream is becoming true”.
Dear friend, the truth is, if you’re taking steps towards it (and I’d say that if you’re reading this then you ARE taking steps, however small they might seem to you), then your dream of having a better home is becoming more true every day, every week, every month.
Take a moment this week and really notice – would a last-year-you be craving something you now have? What would a 10-years-ago-you think of your home now?
You might find out that your reality is actually already better than what you used to imagine. But even if that’s not true, things change constantly and I bet there have been a few improvements in your life.
So today, I have two tasks for you.
One is to really notice how far you’ve come and practice gratitude for that. Recognise that if we don’t change the way we look at things there will ALWAYS be a “when I do this, THEN I’ll be happy about my home”, because – trust me – this doesn’t go away on it’s own. The only way to get rid of this constant “I’m not there yet” feeling is to actively stop this pattern of thinking.
And secondly, I’d like you to make a list. A wish list of what you’d like to see improve in your home. (Don’t forget to date this note! With time you will find this list and when you’re able to start ticking those things off, it will be a real pleasure when you see how far you’ve come since today.)
I would love to hear your insights. What are you most thankful for in your home? What is on your improvement-wish-list? Don’t hesitate to drop a comment below.
And I’d also like to take a moment to really thank YOU. I want you to know how important you are for me. I have so much gratitude that every Thursday you let me into your inbox and open and read my emails. This means a lot. :)